We've been separated for almost two years - I'm afraid my 5 year old is still acting out because of it
My ex husband and I separated almost two years ago (we're still going through a custody dispute). My five year old son still says things like "Remember when you and my dad used to live together?" or "I just want you and my dad to live together". It breaks my heart every time he says something like that. He now only sees his dad on the weekends (until the custody is decided) and cries at least once a week about wanting to see daddy. I tell him I know he does but that he has to stay with mommy because he has to go to school during the week (we live in different school districts, an hour apart). My son is really aggressive at times - he tries to get other kid's attention by grabbing them or holding/hugging them (he does it in a friendly way, he's wanting to play with them) - and other times he's completely soft hearted and gets really teary-eyed when something is bothering him. He's very soft hearted and gets his feelings hurt very easily at times. I'm almost afraid to say it, but it's almost like he's bi-polar (obviously not to that extreme, but I don't know any other way to describe it). He can go from throwing a terrible tantrum one minute and laughing and joking with me the next. And he doesn't listen to me very well either. I know, a lot of five year olds are like this, I'm just having a really hard time getting a handle on it. I guess I'm just looking for advice on how to handle the whole situation, how to get him accustomed to the whole "mommy and daddy don't live together" situation, even though it's been two years. He needs constant attention from me and I think it's because he's afraid that he's not loved since his dad and I have separated. I always reassure him that me and his daddy love him very much. How do I handle this? Any advice is greatly appreciated!