Visitation:1wk w/me, 1wk w/dad; Pros & Cons?
There is a lot (and I mean a lot) of backgraound to the last five years of my and my childrens lives.
I have a soon to be 5 yr. old starting kindergarten in sept.08. Dad wants 50/50 custody.
Problem is...Dad lives with his mom. Mom had previously abducted one of her other grandsons and was on the run for 3 years (my ex went with his Mom while she was on the run). Without going to far more into it; my sons paternal grandmother is not a nice person. She works for my ex's Lawyer and they swindled me and my other children out of (almost) everything that I had. This man and his mother threatened to take our son away and I would never see him again if I didn't quit-deed MY home over to him. I told him No way; and a divorice began. My sons Dad wants 50/50 custody so he wont have to pay support (witch he isn't paying right now anyway, so I don't cae about thart) and he knows that would be the nail in my coffin; him getting our child for that much time (Dad wants Grandma, the child abducter, to be our sons babby-sitter) Court Order are this woman can't be left alone with my son (even though Daddy lives with her). These people are grifters. And when my little boy comes home and I ask Did you have a good time? My 4 yr. old replies to me 'Don't worry about' and 'I can't tell you Daddy said it's a seceret'. When my son came home from one visit with his father he had a buzz-cut and my son told me 'Daddy cut my hair cause' he hates you'. (I was letting his hair grow out a little and the Dad knew it).
Okay here is my question;
Please does anyone have info in re: to 1 week at home and 1week with the other?
I really can't see this being benificial to the child. Not at this age; if he where 13-14 maybe, If anything I know from experince through friends who have done this arrangement that it really is harder on ther children.
But I need hard written facts. If anyone knows of any resourcesPlease let me know.