unsavory friend (or really his family)
My 7 year old has a friend from school and church who has come over to our house a few times for a play date. All fine. Now this child's mother has invited my son to play at their house. I am unsure...I met this family when they started coming to our church--at the time they lived in their car. I felt terrible for them and welcomed them as warmly as I could and spearheaded some help for them like clothes, toys, transportation, etc. The parents started work and got a house--awesome! The dad didn't keep a job--outstanding warrants (driving and bad check related--nothing violent), etc. Still, not the kids' fault, and I am happy to have my son friends with one of their children. Mom still works. Now a problem--thievery. Many things stolen that turn out to be from dad or older kids (not the little one my son likes). I myself had money stolen from my purse. The older boys were caught breaking into a lock box for a church fund for indigent health care. Plus other things I don't love my kids to be around--parents are okay with teenagers drinking and having sex, talk about hangovers, etc. in front of little kids, many other things like this too numerous to mention, including the little kids crossing the highway unsupervised.
SO, I don't want my son over there. Yes, I believe he can be trusted and won't do many of the things that he could be exposed to, but I don't want him even exposed to it. My mom thinks I am being crazy/snobby as my son is super responsible. SO I feel a little unsure...also, how do I get out of this invitation without being rude? And if I can't get out of this what am I going to do when my kids are teenagers and have lots of invites I don't like...any advice is appreciated!!