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Time to start a family?


I'm new here. I've been having a lot of difficulty deciding whether or not I am ready to have children.

My husband of five years likes children and has been saying for years that he wants children; but I have been hesitant, and he has waited patiently and does not push the matter. I am in my early thirties. I have completed every 'milestone' that I expected to complete before starting a family: I have a rewarding career that pays well (and so does my husband), we own a home, I have completed my education, and I am married. Although there is no longer anything standing in the way of having children, I am not entirely sure I want children right now, or at all. I love my life the way it is. I have a great relationship with my husband, and I enjoy my work and social life. I realize that having a child could change everything, and I'm not sure if it will change it for the better.

I just need some advice on how to make such a momentous decision, and I'm wondering if anyone else found it a difficult choice to make. Thank you.