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Discussion Title: Taking presents meant for other people
Created by: tihayes Created on: Mon, 06/22/2009 - 11:00pm. Need some advice how to handle a situation where my 7 yr old son decided to take, open and use a present that was meant for a classmate for her birthday. He knew the present was for his classmate because we went to the store and picked it out together. He simply said, "I forgot". He definitely did it intentionally. Should I not allow him to go to the birthday party because we no longer have a present? Or should I make him come up with the money to buy a new present (although he is only 7, so it won't be so easy). I don't want to let it go so easily.
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Replied: 6/23/2009 10:37am.
Have him earn a small amount for a token present.
Tell him you are disappointed that he lied.
Tell him you are sorry you didn't know that he wanted the stuff, and that if you had known, you would have found a way to get him some, too.
Part of teaching a kid not to lie is you be worthy of their trust.
Replied: 7/8/2009 10:39am.
Acitez is right. I wldn't put so much emphasis on the fact that your son opened and used a present meant for his friend. I'd be more concerned w/ the lying. Tell your son that you're not happy that he lied. Have him do chores to earn $ to buy another gift for his friend. Encourage your son to ask for what he wants, not just take something that doesn't belong to him. I wldn't reward him w/ another toy; I wld just expect him to learn from his actions, so that next time he can handle the situation more appropriately.