SON TOLD ME HE HATED ME
My son will be 13 at the end of August. He has morphed into the two headed monster over the past two months. His father and I were divorced when he was five. I am remarried and his stepfather plays a big role in the childrens lives. I also have a twin daughter and an eight year old son. My current husband has no biological children of his own so he kind of fell into the roll nicely. I am a strick mother and do stick with the punishment that is dealt. My son has been getting into quite a few mishaps in school and at home lately. This means he is grounded to his room, has extra chores to do, no t.v., radio, games, etc. He really is punished. There is none of the "your grounded now go watch t.v" in our home. I never had this type of follow through with my parents and I wrecked havoc all through out my teen years. I want my children to understand that making mistakes comes with growing up but there are consequences for their actions and they are usually not fun ones when they do not follow the rules. That kind of let's you all know a little bit about me. My son will not talk to me about much of anything. I had to whole sex talk with the twins and there wasn't much response of course. They were embarrassed, I was embarrassed. I did the best I could. My son has been "dating" if you can call it that since they can't go anywhere a girl that has been rumored to not be a virgin. I've caught her smoking. I've caught her back in the woods with boys. She sends red flags up all around. I was told by another parent that my son was given condoms by her. I calmly approach him about them as best I can. I ask him if he has them because boys think they are cool to have in their wallet. I can remember boys flashing them in school and thinking they were hot stuff. Then I asked if he was thinking about having sex. He was irrate with me. He told me I had issues. Stormed out of the room. I then got mad and yelled at him to come back. I explained that this was not a comfortable conversation for me to have either but it needs to be said. He then tells me he hates me and can not stand living in this house anymore and wants to move in with his dad. I didn't get mad. I just told him I was hurt that he said that and that I'm sorry he feels that way because I love him more than anything in the world. How do you deal with your child telling you they hate you? All I was doing is asking why he had condoms. Why in the world does a 12 year old need a condom? He hasn't even hit puberty yet.