kellirenee321's picture
kellirenee321

Sleeping Problems for 4 yr old

I have googled till I'm blue in the face trying to see suggestions and advice on how to smoothly transition my four year old daughter into sleeping in her bed at night. I realize that this will not be an easy task, and I'm prepared for that... but I am so lost on the "best" way to try the transition. Most of what I read online, says to establish a 30 minute wind down period before bed... reading to her, praying with her, etc. Now here comes the hard part... I have a two month old son who just so happens to be one of those babies that really doesn't get "a routine" just yet. I try to bathe them and then set aside from 7 45pm on to dedicatng them to go to bed. My husband holds our newborn while I go in the room with our daughter. This would be all fine and dandy, BUT my daughter knows that I'm going to be leaving the room and she literally FIGHTS her sleep. I was in her room with her for about 2 hours the past couple nights. It's draining. Not to mention my son woke up and I breastfeed exclusively so I had to tend to him, meanwhile she's crying in her room... husbands already fallen asleep (he works early in the morning)... it's just so frustrating. I picked the absolute worst time to try and wean her (with a newborn), but we dont all fit in the bed... its time she learn to go to bed in her own space. I just wish I knew how to make it easier on everyone. Any advice is well appreciated.



mayamay's picture
mayamay
If you give in and let her back into your bed, you have to start over from scratch again. That means you have to be tough on yourself. It would be easier for YOU to give up, but if you do, that means that SHE has to start over at the beginning. My advice is, just keep at it until she understands that this is the way it will be from now on. My very dearest friend has an 18 year-old daughter who would not sleep alone until about 3 months ago. The family had been through a lot of trauma, and the mom just decided it wasn't worth the fight.
Parentingisnteasy's picture
Parentingisnteasy
Try the privacy pop for her bed. I had one when I was little. You can order them from privacypop.com. They slip on the bed and look like a tent. She will feel like bedtime is fun and enjoy the independence. You might also ask your doctor about melatonin. She might have a defficiency of that. Hope this helps!