Hi everyone, I am new to this but I need some help VERY bad.
I just got remarried in April to a great guy. I have 2 sons. One is 21 and married, they live with us and I have a son that is almost 18. She has been living with us since last July and the just got married a few weeks ago. In the beginning, since my son had a job, he was paying me $50 a week and then when she moved in she paid me $50 a week as well. Which was good because it really helped with groceries and bills. In Feb. the needed another vehicle, so I told them to put what they were paying me toward the vehicle. After they got the vehicle, the dropped paying me down to $50.00 a week for both of them.
In April, I got remarried. I took a leave of absence from work because my dad is terminal and I need to help my mom with him. My new husband is paying all the bills. Things are very tight on us. Especially since he has his bills to pay too.
For $50 a week this is what they get: I cook all the meals. Wash dishes 90% of the time. When I do laundry, I do theirs too. (when she does laundry she only does theirs and whatever is in the bathroom) We pay the entire mortgage pmt, light bill, a/c unit bill, insurance, cable and dsl. I do all the yard work. I sweep and mop. I can not remember them ever mopping, they have swept a few times.
Most of the time when they come in from work, they both work day shift. They will go to their room and not come out until supper is ready. They will eat, help put the food away most of the time and then pile dirty dishes in the sink, then go back to their room to watch TV. If they want to go out to eat, they do. I buy the groceries and my husband is a diabetic, certain things I buy for him, she eats. Or takes to work. If I buy something special for my youngest son, it gets ate up. But I am told that whatever food is brought into the house is fair game. If they go somewhere and eat and bring back a plate, we better not touch it.
I have tried talking to my son about this matter and he gets really defensive. He has a quick temper and does not mind calling me a bi*** or saying F/U. I have also been letting him use my car to go back and forth to work because he does not have a vehicle now. He has been using my car since April and when it needed tires, we bought them in August. He did not even say since he was using the car he would help pay for them.
Our taxes this year are around $500 due on 12-20. 5 days before Christmas. We have my youngest son to buy for plus step-grandkids. I don't know how to do it. Me and my mom are picking up pecans, on our hands and knees, to have the extra money. But I am still expected to cook, clean and do what needs doing.
Last week, I had a seziure due to stress. I have no medical insurance because I had to quit my job after my leave ended. I need an EEG and CAT scan and can not afford to have that done.
PLEASE help me. I do not know how to broach the subject without sounding like I am coming down on them.