My son has been having trouble adjusting to me and my ex's divorce. He has been acting out at school. He actually got kicked out of one preschool. After a rough patch at first, he seemed to be doing better in his new school except for nap time which we were working on. Well, today he was doing something to another kids art project. His teacher asked him if he would like it if she did that to his and he said no he would get a gun and shoot her. Now I know that is not normal for a 4 year old. I know he did not pick this up at my house as he never watches anything more violent than Dora at my house, and I am pretty anti-gun. My ex, however, has an older son who is ADHD/ODD and very aggressive, and I think that is part of the problem. But when I mention it to him, he says our son is lying and that the real problem is that I think he is a perfect angel and am not seeing how he really is. My son is usually pretty polite and respectful at my house. My ex has a lot of behavior issues with him. We are now arguing about punishment. I punished him when I got home and made sure he had no fun on the next day (he wasn't allowed back to school the next day). After all this, my ex wanted me to punish him again by taking all his toys away (and not give them back until he earns them) so the punishment could carry over to his house and he could see we "were in agreement." Am I crazy or does this sound like punishing him twice? I think the punishment needs to be immediate (which it was). I'd love to hear opinions from people outside the situation.