Need help breaking the cycle
I'm new to this board, it's been a long time since I've posted on one at all because I've been busy since number two was born. But, I've run across something that really bothers me. My six year old is as smart as a whip, scored extremely high on her IQ test, is interested in things most kids her age are not. She always has been. She said her ABC's right after her first birthday, she identified trapezoids and rectangles and colors (not just identified, said them in sentences like, if I bite this Dorito on the top, it looks like a trapezoid) before her 2nd birthday. And she's a sweet girl. Recently we had her put on prozac for her severe anxiety. Not something I took lightly at all but she seems to be so much happier since we did it. She isn't fearful to try new things, she stopped waking up screaming at night for no reason, she laughs harder and makes new friends.
But here's my issue. I've really tried hard to be a firm but loving parent. I want her to behave, and mind her manners. I want her to respect her elders and not be the kid that other parents dread to see coming. But I think I've stifled her creativity in the process. I think I've made her afraid to be confident in expressing herself because she's afraid she'll disappoint me. Something my little perfectionist hates to do. Just today, (and this is another frustrating cycle) she kept hanging on the counter even though I've asked her a million times not to, and she knocked off something, 30 seconds later she knocked off her breakfast and I got soooo frustrated. How do I calm down, look at the situation and laugh? How do I not sweat the small stuff? Because I don't want her to be afraid to spill her milk the way that I was. Although I do wish she'd listen to me and stop hangin on the darned furniture!
Thank you for reading this long message.