My almost 7 yr old shoplifted ... need advice
We, myself, almost 7 year old daughter and girlfriend) went to a really fancy hotel/casino.
DD's been there before.
Was very good the whole time...as usual.
When we were''re checking out, my daughter and I went to a shop, picked out 2 gifts to give to my girlfriend (who made this vacation happen).
One of the items I asked dd if she wanted to give was what she stole. At the time she said "no"
and I went to pay for the purchases. She came over to me within seconds and now that I think
of it, she went back over to the things this item was amongst.
We stopped to eat on the way home and while they were in the restaurant ordering to go, I
found the "item" on the back floor. I felt like someone punched me in the heart.
I have talked to her about lying and still catch her doing that...silly little lies. I gave her a "break"
for a year after my divorce and went gentle on her but it seems since I've gotten more aware,she's doing more wrong things.
Or maybe she was doing the lying all along and I didn't realize it because of being in my own world.
Lying like : did you brush your teeth? "Yes, Mama" and she didn't....those kind of things.
But now...after I have told her about stealing/shoplifting and for crying out loud we even stopped somewhere that had a sign on it she read "A free ride in Sherriff XXXX's car if you shoplift from this store."
Yet....I have stolen crap in my pocket! :-(
I don't know what to do with her.
I don't know if I should call the gift shop or just take it back when we (NOT with DD) go back next month.
I know she needs to have enough punishment to get it thru her head that THIS IS WRONG.
Thanks in advance!