My 4 year old's friend
I have a 4 year old daughter (G) who has an 8 year old friend (J), by default--we are neighbors and there are no other kids in the neighborhood. J lives with her mom and grandma in a very disfunctional home. recently the grandma asked me to call 911 because her daughter (J's mom) was going to commit suicide and she was hitting her every time she picked up the phone. J used to be a nice, considerate little girl. she is changing and I can't stand her anymore. she is contradictory to everything my daughter says. she is always the mom or the teacher when they play. I feel like I have to tail them every time they are playing now because I don't trust this little girl anymore. It is making me very moody-not to mention the girl is here ALL DAY, every day. her mom makes no effort at all to be part of her life or even play with her. I play with my daughter ALOT. but now, when J comes over I am getting really crabby towards my daughter because I am so resentful about J being here all the time. I spend so much time with them and basically, I am resentful towards J's mom for being such a crappy mom and she has never even acknowledged that I spend a ton of time entertaining her daughter. I am tired of it. I want this girl to go home. I can't entertain her all day at the expense of my own daughter who is always the baby or the student. I am sick of it but I don't know what to do. there's NO chance of talking to J's mom. she is emotionally unstable. My daughter thinks this girl is her best friend and they are pretty close. J is not intentionally being this way--her personality is changing because of her age but also because of her mom being so disfunctional. what can I do? please give me some advice. I feel like I have to plan activities away from home every day just so I don't have to entertain J all day. It has already started to be a really long summer.