I've sceared my 3 year old
I don't know how to start this.
I fear that I might have scared my boy a bit the other day.
I had bought him this new tough spring jacket which he liked very much.
Needles to say after a while it became, used by a boy as it was a bit filthy. I avoided washing it fore some while I must say, because I was a bit frighten of ruining it.
Well to be short, at the end it was cleere it needed a wash. I ended up tossing it in the sink in the bathroom and washed it by hands. Yes I filled up the sink with water added some detergent and soaked it or tried to soak it, you see those types of jacket specially like this one which is nylonlined when put into soapy water inflate themselves, (anyone else who had forgotten that?) making it almost impossible to get it down into the water. When you have placed it with the outer shield (which was the filthiest)downwards as I did, the lining as you might have guest, will face up and what’s more, blooping up through the suds in air filled pockets, and when you try to push one down another one will emerge immediately accompanied by a rumbling sound. Needless to say it feels a bi weird when you find your self battling with a jacket in the sink that way.
Occupied with this it didn't occur to me that this might be anything else but funny to anyone, I didn't even notice at the beginning that the boy was standing next to me, watching his beloved jacket being submerged into water and its lining emerging through the suds as big shiny grumbling balloons, suddenly I noticed him, with big open eyes and open mouth. He was standing for some seconds then he almost fled the room.
It took me some seconds to collect my thoughts, and then I run after him, I found him in the hallway underneath a table a bit shaky, poor thing he also had wet his pants I sat down talking to him, telling him that it was okey and no harm was done to his jacket. I realized that he was needing new pants, and that I had to get him with me to fix that. I asked him to come with me, but of course he refused. I was standing for some new seconds thinking about what am I going to do about this. I realized that I probably had scared him a bit he is only three and a half years old.
Never the less he was in quick need of new pants, I therefore told him "you are coming with me mister, to see that it's no harm done", then I lifted him up carrying him with me, despite strong protest into the washing room. I first he wouldn't look but when I carried him towards the sink and touched the "lining balloons" myself he loosened a bit, and after a while he agreed to stay within the room and he even laughed a bit of it to. He was watching me and sometimes I put a hand on one balloon and pushed and when the blurp followed by a new balloon come, he yaped an almost jumped and run towards the wall, still he managed to come back after some convincing talk from me, and after a while it seamed that he actually got familiar with it and managed to see a quite deal of fun with it, to my big relief.
When finished with washing we put it in the washer for the last rinse and a delicates spin cycle, he started "yaping" when it started spinning and was a bit anxious when we opened the lid (so was I but I didn't show it, at least I hope I did hide it so well that he didn't notice it), and I could see that he was a little bit shaky again when I pulled it out.
Even though it in the end was mostly funny he actually refused to be wearing it when it was all dried and clean, he wouldnt evean touch the lining (he was picking a bit on the outer shell though), making me realize that the lining had probably scared him, after a lot of fuzzing he at the end agreed to try to touch it and after a while we got him to try it on, his was a bit shaky and was lokking in the lining the hole time. And so it has remaned, when he gets it on he is looking at, and sometimes picking at the lining almost the hole time if it is open, especially when he was in the car, and now its a week since the wash.
So did I scare him badly? What shall I do about it? :-\Will it be ok by itself by some time? will it be normalized by itself? Shall I still let him wear it Somebody who have an advice?
I've also have bin thinking that mabye I shoulden't have brought him back to that bath, and I did concider letting him stay, but I didn't him to stay there without beeing changed, and I thougt bringing him witht me wuld make him see that it was no harm done, but was I wrong? In an other way I have bin thinking that if I hadn't brought him into the bath room as I did he might have remained scared where he was, and might be more nervous fore the jacket afterwards and would that have bin any better?
So what do I do, someone who have bin at a similar situation