Is it ok to call son while he's with non-custodial parent?
My 9yo son is with my ex and his wife for a week and I would like to call to see how he is doing. Do you think this is ok?
I have primary custody, ex has scheduled visitation. Divorce agreement gives both parents free phone access to our son.
I have told ex from the begining he can call our son anytime he wants to..I would never prevent him from talking to his son. He very seldom calls..his choice. Occasionally our son asks to call his father..which I allow him to do.
The problem is with ex's wife..she will not allow me to call "HER" cell phone (which, by the way, is the only phone they have) to talk to my son. She has been told many times that it is in the court papers that I (or ex if situation reversed) has free phone contact with our son but she doesn't care.
I have reasons to be concerned for my son's welfare while with his father..son (8yo at the time) found pot out in the open in father's bedroom (also the room son slept in while there), son was involved in a situation of inappropriate touching with ex's wife's younger brothers (who were themselves molested just a few months before this, unknown to me), ex and wife fight a lot (recently during one of their fights my son got so scared he locked himself in their bathroom, cops were called that time), and there are other reasons for me to be concerned that I won't go into here.
I bought son a tracfone that I could lock so only the numbers I programmed into it can be called out or in. I told my son to keep this phone on him at all times while with his father. He was to use it only in emergencies and to call me ONCE a day to say hi.
Well, first time son took phone with him he got sassy with it..telling his 16yo half-sister he was going to call me everytime she told him what to do. He ended up calling me several times that day. Not my intention when I got the phone. I have since talked to son, again, about the proper usage of that phone and also had him call his father to apologize for being a butt with it.
Now step-mother has told my son he is not allowed to take the phone with him again..if he does, she told him she will take it from him. She told me (via ex's sister) she would have my son call me everyday from her phone.
I told my son he is to take the phone with him but keep it shut off and in his backpack unless absolutely neccessary. With son's phone off I have no way to contact him unless I call ex's wife's phone.
Son went to his father's on Sunday, step-mother let my son call me once on Monday, it's now Thursday night and I haven't heard from son again. I'm wondering if I should call him.