Husband's Temper with the Kids
My husband is a stay at home dad with our two children--a 5 yr old girl and a 2 yr old boy. Whenever he grows very impatient or loses his temper with the kids he screams at them using very foul language (mainly the f-bomb), slamming or throwing objects (not at the kids), belittling them, and storming around the house. And as fast as he loses his temper he is quick to return to a nice a jovial mood with the kids (not apologizing for his behavior). Needless to say, me and the kids find this frightening because we don't know what to make of this behavior and I'm afraid it will escalate. I have tried to talk to him about where this anger is coming from and controlling it. He will either laugh it off, blow me off, turn it around saying my behavior is as bad as his (it is nowhere near his temper), or use the excuse that he does not know what to do because he has never had a positive role model father figure growing up. I have made vast improvements on how I handle my anger towards the kids because I do not want them to experience the relationship I had growing up with my parents (negativity, name calling, screaming etc); and I am beginning to see my childrem emulate the same behavior as my husband. I am at my wits end on what to do with my him--he has read self help books, watched parenting videos, anything he thinks will help him, it seems to go through one ear and out the other though. We are a military family and I am very afraid that a witness/neighbor will misinterpret his anger for abuse and report him to authorities, which in turn, I will be investigated and suffer disciplinary action if my superiors deem it fit. Can anyone give me advice on what I can do with my husband? We are overseas and counseling services are very limited.