HELP! When to have baby #3???
HI! I am of mother of two boys, age 4 1/2 and 22 mos. We have been doing a alot of talking about baby #3 recently. We got pregnant with baby #2 when our first turned 2 years old. We thought almost 3 years apart was good spacing!? So far, we've been pretty content with the spacing and our second son is fast approaching 2 years old (January). If we were to go according to plan, we'd ttc in Jan. BUT----HOLD THE BOAT---it is a totally different ballgame now. That would mean baby #3 would be due in October.
Here are my concerns. Hayden, our first son would then be 5 and would have just started Kindergarten. Would a new baby in Oct be too much for me OR him at the start of such a transition as Kindergarten? He's quite adaptable, I don't worry as much about him as I do myself. What if I go into 'new baby hibernation' and don't meet that many mothers at school. What if I can't participate that much in that first crucial year? What if he brings home school-aged germs and baby is always sick because he/she was born on the brink of cold/flu season. I could go on and on.....but since I've probably established myself as a verified nut by now, I'll stop.
I don't know if I want to wait that much longer because then I fear our oldest (4 1/2) will be too far removed from the baby. Or, will this not matter because we're a great, tight-knit family and I just wouldn't let anyone around here be "far removed!"
With all that being said, I will let you know that it is my personal preference to deliver babies after the holidays....maybe I should wait a few months and then the baby would be due in Feb? Any thought would be appreciated ! :) Oh how I wish I lived in the old days when nobody ever dreamt of "planning" a pregnancy