Is this good parenting?
Today we had Thanksgiving at my parents house. In attendence were my cousin, her boyfriend and her 8 year old son. Her son and my other cousin's children briefly went outside to play with the 8 year old child of my parent's next-door neighbor. A few minutes later they came back in and reported that the neighbor's child had tried to hit my cousin's son in the back of the head after losing a game. The other children stopped him and the boy went back to his own house. When the kids told us my cousin and her boyfriend became very angry not at the neighbor child but at her own son for not fighting back! The boyfriend pulled him aside and gave him a quiet lecture no one else could hear. Then my cousin told her son that the next time anyone tried to hit him he needed to "punch him in the face until he fell down!" The boyfriend later bragged that when he was a kid if he lost a fight with another child his father "whupped" him. Later in the evening my cousin scolded her son again and reminded him to fight back next time. Now, I was the only non-parent adult in attendence and I didn't feel comfortable offering my opinion, both because it isn't my right to tell someone else how to raise their kid and because in my experiance parents don't listen to people who don't have kids themselves. So my question to parents out there is: Was this good parenting? Is this how you would have handled it?