EX is troublesome.
Hi, I have a six year old child, son who has a great relationship with my husband, step dad. However his real dad my EX keeps coming in and out of the picture. I broke up with him when the child was one and half years. When the child turned four i went to court to get primary custody since the dad lives more than 1000 miles away. I moved away. He objected to it and asked for joint custody which i agreed just to get some peace. He however asked the judge to be able to claim to my son for taxes every other year which the judge granted him. He again refused to pay for back child support and threatened to fight for full custody and started calling my husband names and making false accusations out of hisown imaginations. He called him a babysitter once and a child molester!. My husband has been a good father figure to my son, he helps him with school work and has his interest at heart. My son wants to be a doctor like my husband.
My question is my son's dad has visitation rights but he had not come or given me a date to send my son to him. He is seen him twice since the kid was two and one time i took the kid to him since i happened to be in his state. He would write emails on the days he wants to come but cancells them or never shows up then he accuses me of not letting him see the child.
How can i prove that i did let him come but he never shows up. I had to terminate my Lawyer contract because my Ex is verbally abusive and will send threats on me to my lawyer. I agreed to have the child support the way my Ex wants, i agreed to joint custody and all that he wants.
However my husband is now getting mad because my Ex is taking advantage and wants me to send the kid to the dad. I do not want my son to go live with such a guy, My husband wants to be the only dad because he says it is so confusing to the kid. He is ready to take care of him since he does not have plans of having kids with me. How do i tell my Ex to give up his parental rights because he really does not care about this kid and all he wants is not to pay any dime towards the kid nut to harrass me everyday.