don't like being a mom
I have a 4yo & 2yo(almost 3)boys and feel so overwhelmed with them. They do go into daycare a few times a week, but even the few hours at night are too much. I wake up to nastiness, hitting, mean talk and end up yelling at them all day. To discipline the meanness, they can both be in a timeout by 8 or 9am. Some say to choose my battles, I feel like I never know which ones to choose. If I do a t.o., it escalates into a full tantrum & yelling battle, but if I don't then they are getting away with it. I've tried ignoring the "poop" talk, its still around after 6mos. We give t.o. for hitting...they end up having 5 t.o.'s a day - boys hit, boys will be boys, right?
The 4yo's bad behavior is fueled by jealousy so we've tried addressing that issue but can't be on top of it all the time. How many times each day & week do I have to tell him to stop hitting, and be nice???? And to stop splattering applesauce all over the kitchen...the "experts" advice is to use humor...when I've cleaned up applesauce for the 5th time in a week, it isn't funny anymore. ANd no, making him clean it up just makes more of a mess.
I really want to walk away from it all. This isn't fun, everyone said having kids was great. I'm not seeing it. Everyone says to have patience and humor, sorry, mines all used up. Looking for real advice, not textbook ideology. Thanks.