Dad needs some advice...
Over the past few months, I have been thinking through a predicament that seems difficult to resolve...Below is some background...
I am a father of 3 children, two adult daughters, in their 20s both married (from previous marriage) and a 9 year old son (from my current marriage). My two daughters, their husbands and two grandchildren live in one state and My son, wife, and I live in another state (about 5 hours away).
I moved to the distant state about 8 years ago in part for work reasons and in part to allow my wife to be near her family. We have settled into this new community quite well and my wife is very grateful to be close to her mother who she sees almost every day.
I have the type of job that would allow me to live in either place (where I am now or where my daughters live) and am having thoughts that I should move back to where my daughters so I can be close to all my chidren and grandchildren.
I fear that if I don't do this, i will have nothing but a superficial relationship with my daughters and grandchildren.
The rub is that my wife would only agree to move grudgingly and would probably be resentful. It is not helpful that my job causes me to travel a couple days each week so that our current living situation (e.g. near mom, etc.) is conforting to my wife.
As I think through my predicament, I am having a very hard time sorting through how to make this decision...it feels like a win/lose decision, no matter how I look at it.
Thanks in advance to anyone who would like to offer me some advice or a way to more clearly think through my situation.