7yr old joint custody caos
Ok I have one of the best step-daughters that a girl could ask for. We have always had such a good relationship, we have fun, laugh and play. It always been good with us and still is for the most part. So here's the story. Her mother was absent from her live for about a year (probably when she was between 3 and 4), just up and left and had some personal issues. My husband got full custody after that. When she returned, she slowly over time got some of her rights back until they now share joint custody.
Up until recently things have been going pretty smoothly. The past two weeks my step-daughter(we will call her Kate for confidentiality reasons) has started crying for her mom the second she walks through the door. She will get a little upset and cry just a little at first. I usually tell her that it is fine that she misses her mom and its ok to cry sometimes. THen, she got to were she would throw crying fits everytime she would talk to her mom before bed and it would last until she fell asleep. One night she got out of bed at midnight and snuck and called her, we being shocked just took her to meet her. Last night she screamed, I could hear her through 2 closed doors, saying "I want my mommy". I dont know what has happened. Nothing has changed here and we give her more attention than the 2 yr old when she is here since she's not here all of the time. What do I do??? Missing her mommy is not the problem, that is understandable, it is the tantrums and crying fits that can not be controlled that has me at a loss!!! Any suggestions on how to handle this???