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matthewsmom

6 year old pooping in underwear

Help!! My 6 year old was a late potty trainer because of constipation. we had to give him daily doses of miralax which really helped. he was finally potty trained by the middle of pre-k and was doing great. now, all of the sudden, i guess since november, he has been pooping in his underwear. sometimes its just a stain, but other times its alot more than that. we've tried time out, restrictions, punishments and nothing works. he'll go several days with no accident and going on the toilet, then for a few days he reverts back to his old ways. we are at wits end. any advice?



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acitez

Get a nutrition consult, he may not be getting enough fiber and water in his diet. Does he get enough physical activity? check with your doctor about daily miralax again. I would bet he does not have control over this, so behavior modification efforts are just making him feel bad about something he can't fix by himself.

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matthewsmom

I had backed off on the daily miralax because it seemed to make things worse. He is a picky eater, but I make sure he eats some fruit every day. I also have been adding benefiber to his milk every day. I can understand the staining but I'm not so sure about the larger amounts. He is a very active child. I certainly don't want to make him feel badly about himself. Thanks so much for your input.

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sportsgirl

My son was late at potty training too, and he pooed in his pants until he was about 6 1/2.
I was at my wits end to, nothing I did would stop him doing it. I knew that he would not like to "take the time" to go to the bathroom because it would ruin his play time. So what I ended up doing is on the hour (every hour he was with me) I would ask him if he needed to go to the bathroom. This went on for about a week. He was so sick of me asking him, he finally told me that if I stopped asking him he would "take the time" to go.
He is now 10 years old and all is good!:)
Pestering is not something I like to do but it worked, good luck.
Steph

Inspiring healthy life choices

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matthewsmom

Thanks for the suggestion. I suppose that in the back of my mind I figured I should be doing that but my 19 month old seems to demand so much of my time that Matthew often getst the short end of the stick. I'm also wondering if he's got a little of middle child sydrome, but since this started long after she was born, I tend to question it. Any thoughts on that?

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sportsgirl

It could be a possibility that he is doing it to get your attention, it sure does make you "deal" with him. Nothing yuckier than poopy 6 year old pants :)
If you are suspecting this may be the reason, why not make a certain time of the day to be "Matthew Time". He would get to chose what is going to happen (you read to him, you both play cards, you both go out for a bike ride). This could be 30 mins or more, but the trick is, is that all your attention goes to Matthew and no one else. It might mean you have to get a friend to help with your other kids or if the dad is still around, or whomever.
Good Luck!

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concerned mom

My son (4 1/2) gets lazy or distracted, and unless he's reminded to go potty, he sometimes will poop in his pants. My older son was like your son at age 4. He wld hold in his poop and then get constipated. Then he wld have accidents. We use an over-the- counter supplement called Fiber Choice. It's a chewable tablet that was recomended by my sons' dr. Since then things have been better.

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MomB

I can totally relate. My oldest daughter did the same thing. We ended up going to a pediatric specialist. The "staining" she experienced was actually leakage resulting from terrible constipation. She would physically withhold going to the bathroom. We could tell that she had to go, but she wouldn't. She would be active and playing and all of a sudden drop down and sit cross-legged on the floor and would wait for the urge to pass. The specialist took an x-ray and she was pretty plugged up. They gave her an enema to clean her out and then we went on the Miralax. This helped considerably and after awhile we weaned her off of it. It seemed that she would revert back periodically, but we would start the Miralax again. She would be on it for shorter amounts of time, until finally she was able to go consistantly without it. She is now 11 years old and hasn't had any issues for about 4 years.

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usa74cdn

HELP! my 6yr girl just started to poop in her panties and when asked why she says she wants to? There is no reason for it as her stool is soft. She has had problems with constipation in the past but this is different. What can I do to get her to stop? I've tried grounding, taking items away, she doesn't seem to care. She is even doing this at school? I am at my wits end and very upset as a parent for her as well as feeeling that I have done something wrong in my job as a parent? Any suggestions would be helpful!

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concerned mom

Talk to your daughter's dr. Have there been any changes in your household or at school? Maybe your daughter is reacting to a particular stress in her life. Kids react in different ways. If it's a physical problem, see a specialist. It's been recommended to us to try a reward chart. For each day my son uses the potty, he gets a prize. If, however, he poops in his pants, he gets nothing that day. In my son's case, it's more a behavioral issue. It seems now that things are finally clicking w/ him. We finally got our son to the pt where he will tell us when he needs to poop rather than him hiding in a corner. He's 4. My oldest is 5, and he, too, potty trained late. However, he still wets at night. I feel your frustration. The dr told us that some kids just take longer than others to mature. Definitely talk to your daughter's dr though, especially if your daughter was potty trained before, but now is suddenly exhibiting this behavior.

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sf87383

Our 5 year old has reverted to pooping in his pants as well. We have had him on miralax for a long time. I have to caution anyone using miralax that it should only be used for a short term. A friend of ours is a nutritionist and after having a discussion with her about dietary needs for him if you use this product too long the colon can forget how to work. My advise is to use it for a short period of time while at the same time giving you child a more fibrous diet. The RDA of fiber is 35 grams. Most people never even get close to that. Also, water is VERY important. The proper amount of water is determined by body weight. Take how much you weigh and divide that in half. That is the number of ounces of water you should be drinking per day. If you child weighs 50 lbs. He/she should be drinking 25 ounces of water every day.