My 5 yr old refuses to learn to swim!
Hi all. Facing another challenge w/ my 5 yr old. We recently signed our boys up for swim lessons. This is their 1st real lesson. They both love the water, but unfortunately we do not have a large pool for them to swim in. We do have a blow up kiddie pool that the boys can sit and splash in, however. Neither of our boys were ever afraid of the water. As babies, they loved bathtime, and still do. They've both even experienced swimming in an inground pool a few times, however, they've always used swimmies or a vest to help them float. W/ swim lessons, though, any floating device is a no no. My youngest son is 3 1/2, and he's doing great! He was a bit timid at first, but now he'll attempt to swim on his own w/ no problem. My oldest son is the opposite. He's so nervous to let go of the instructor, and even when she reassures him that he'll be fine, he refuses to try. At his last lesson, he used the excuse of having to go to the bathrm. Then when he got back in the pool and was asked to swim to the ladder only a short distance away, he refused. Finally, he started to cry, and I felt heartbroken. I thought my kids wld find the whole experience fun, but my 5 yr old wants no part of it. He's been invited to friends' houses to swim, but he won't leave the edge of the pool. I feel helpless b/c I want my son to learn how to swim, especially for safety reasons. I'm also kicking myself for not exposing him to the water sooner. Maybe, starting as a baby, he wld've adjusted to the whole idea easier. How can I help my son overcome his fear of swimming? Shld I continue to expose him to the water, or shld I hold off, and see what happens as he gets older? Sometimes I think the more exposure the better, but I don't want to terrify the kid to the pt where he now hates the water altogether. My son has some learning difficulties, but this is nothing that anyone in his same situation cldn't conquer. The lessons are also 1-on-1, so they're not cheap. Is it worth sticking it out, and spending all this $$, if our son's not going to swim? Please help w/ any advice or suggestions you may have. Thanks sooo much!!!!!