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Discussion Title: FEAR OF DEATH
Created by: marywest Created on: Thu, 05/22/2008 - 8:36am. hi everyone
glad to find this wonderful massage board to discuss my problems which annoy me always
ok,i am 25 years old,i am not sick nor i lose anyone but it is nearly 4 months that i cant stop thinking about death and after that.Every night i unconsciously think about death and then i afraid so much so i cant sleep or sleep with nightmare.I live with my mother and father and i meet my friends only 2 or 3 times in one week so i think lonleyness is one of the reasons and when my bad feelings grow fast i think it is because my monthly priods(i dont have priods for 2 months)
i am looking for job and i have lots of mental pressure.
can someone help me,please ? is anybody else with this feelings ?
thanks so much in advance for your help
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Replied: 5/22/2008 9:52am.
At 25 yrs old, it's common for people to look for jobs, search for meaningful relationships and settle down in their lives. This can be a very stressful time, especially if the person is feeling pressured or if things aren't going exactly as planned.
You need to try and relax, and take things one step at a time. Your life will fall into place when the time is right.
As for the feelings of death, you said you're not sick and you haven't experienced a loss. You also said you feel lonely. Could this be linked to inadequate feelings you have towards yourself?
You mentioned too that your periods are irregular. I've heard of women going through menopause having thoughts of death, but I never heard of this at age 25. I suppose it cld be a hormonal problem, but again I'm not a dr.
You said you've been getting these feelings for the last 4 mos. Have you ever felt like this before? I'm wondering if you maybe experienced something traumatic during your life that's causing these feelings to surface now. It cld be a subconscious thing.
I wld suggest, first and foremost, talking to a psychologist about these feelings. I wld also mention this to your gynocologist to see if it may be linked to a hormonal problem. You can maybe consider a birth control pill to help regulate your periods.
Overall, take care of your health first. Don't worry about the job or relationships right now. Those things will all fall into place eventually. Please keep us posted on how you make out.
Replied: 5/22/2008 12:22pm.
a few hours ago i heard that i passed MA exam
i am so happy
you see i was also worried about my exam result
i fill an online anxiety test and it shows that my anxiety is very high
i think my negative feelings will be better when i go vacation in summer and also trying to be relax
do you think my negative feelings will get better or not ?
Replied: 5/23/2008 7:51am.
Replied: 5/23/2008 1:58pm.
i want to ask a question
i always try to solve problems and anxiety in my mind completely but you know we never can solve a problem like fear of death completely because we dont know its all aspects
do you think it is better i dont think about it at all(if possible think about something else) or find answer and solution to my bad feelings ?
thank you again for replying
Replied: 5/23/2008 5:07pm.
For that, get yourself to a doctor and get a referral to someone who deals with panic and anxiety disorders. It could be you need the help of anti-anxiety meds to get rid of the obsessive thoughts.
It also may help to:
Exercise more,
Reduce caffeine and alcohol intake, if it applies,
Eat healthy, in general, and
Yes, do spend more time with friends.
A last thought, however: You stated that you have suffered for almost 4 months with this. Sleep deprivation alone is not good for a person. And since you are not sleeping well due to these thoughts, I would seek help. We are not doctors here, so it is best to go to one to be sure you know what it is you have and the best treatment for it.
You deserve to feel better.
Replied: 5/25/2008 11:59am.
Replied: 5/25/2008 3:25pm.
as i said after the good results of MA exam
i feel better
i plan for a vacation next month and if after that i have bad feelings again i will go to doctor but at the moment i try not to think about negative feelings
i try also to strengthen my faith and find it useful
i tell you about my feelings in future,THANK YOU
Replied: 6/28/2008 2:52am.
i come back and i did it ,i overcome my bad feelings and now i am alright
just want to say thank you very much all of you for your answers and advices