Doctor won't give referral.
Hello all. I'm new to this boad and am seeking some advice. My son is 3 yrs. old. There is a family hystory of heart disease, my grandfather, my father, and myself all have heart problems. My son was diagnosed with a heart murmur when just newborn, but they said it was probably benign. He has had horrible sleeping problems since he was just newborn that have gotten progressively worse. I've taken him to the doctor countless times about his sleep problems with the only result being that he recommended giving my son natural sleep aids. My son will lay awake in bed fidgeting for hours because he is so nervous, and many nights will only have approx. 5 hours of sleep. (he has no caffeine and I've tried cutting out all sweets, etc.). Now that he is getting older, he also has some other symptoms, such as shying away from physical activity, getting tired easily, and on the rare occasions when he has been at a play area and actually starting running around and playing like other children, he will start sweating, but his skin will be icy cold to the touch. I have of course told his doctor all of this. He has had this doctor for nearly 2 years. He did send my son for an EKG at one point which came back fine, and did nothing else. At my last visit with my heart specialist, my son went with me and I asked my doctor about some of these symptoms. He replied that this did not sound normal, unlike the pediatrician which said that these symptoms were absolutely normal and I was just being overworried. My heart doctor then asked to listen to my son's heart, and immediately heard the heart murmur that my son's current pediatrician has never heard. At my son's last visit to his pediatrician, I specifically asked for a referral to a pediatric heart specialist that my heart doctor had mentioned. My son's doctor flatly refused to give me a referral, saying there was 'nothing at all wrong with him'. He didn't even listen to my son's heart at this visit. I can't take my son without a referral because of his insurance. I feel frustrated and helpless, as there aren't a lot of options for pediatricians in the town where we live. What should I do?