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Discussion Title: Now what should I do???
Created by: Lil_Trey21
Created on: Sun, 01/06/2008 - 2:20am.
Created by: Lil_Trey21
Created on: Sun, 01/06/2008 - 2:20am.
I was dating this guy that is a little bit older than me. I know I shouldnt be dating someone that age but it was only a five year difference so I didnt think that it would matter because we were'nt sexually active. We dated almost a month and he thought that it was time to let me go because he didn't want to give people the wrong idea, like him being a rapist or something to that extent. I really liked him and he hurt me bad. He said that when I hit 18 that he wanted to get back together. But I wouldn't be able to be with him when I turn 18 because I am going to try to move to Atlanta, Georgia and I want to go to college down there. I want us to be together but I don't know how that can even go along because we will be far apart or my heart will mend back together and I wouldn't want it to get hurt as bad ever again. My problem is that he wants us to be friends but I don't know how to be that without feeling more and more hurt everytime we talk together. What should I do???
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Replied: 1/6/2008 11:40am.
You obviously have good taste in guys! If you were 10 years older, I would say you have a keeper! I know that it will be really hard for a while, but I suggest that you arrange for group activities, double dates, things like that, when you want to spend time with your boyfriend. The other thing is to work really hard on growing yourself up. Find and develop your talents and passions, mostly so that you will have a great life, whatever happens with this man, but also because, people with talents and passions are more attractive than teenagers who love you.
Do you know what you will be studying in college? Or is there just a school down in Atlanta that seemed to fit you?
Replied: 1/30/2008 5:11pm.
If you were 10 years older, i would say you have a keeper! No where in the conversation did it say she was 10 yrs older. It said there is a 5 yr difference. I suggest that you move on with your life and leave him alone. There is more guys out there then just one.
Replied: 1/30/2008 5:14pm.
I just meant that since she is under 18, she has plenty of time to find a good guy.
Replied: 6/5/2008 1:17am.
It may feel like the end of the world right now, but you have years ahead of you to grow and meet other guys. At your age, five years is huge. You're still home with your parents, and he's been living in the world as an adult for awhile. Don't worry too much about 'staying friends.' A clean break would be easier for both of you.
Focus on college, your future, and friends your own age. If he's really your soulmate, you may end up getting back together 10 years from now when that 5-yr. difference won't be so drastic. Chances are, though, you'll hardly remember him by them. Lucky for you he's realizing that getting more involved with you could get him into trouble. Take advantage of the opportunity and move on!
- Kristin
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Replied: 6/5/2008 9:07am.
This guy definitely wants a sexual relationship w/ you, but he doesn't want the legal complications that go along w/ it since you are under 18. Guys often say they want to stay friends w/ a girl when they are actually breaking up w/ her. This is called "letting you down easy". However, it's not that easy is it? Who knows. That may not be the case here, and this guy may be truly sincere. But let's be realistic. A lot can happen during the time you're apart and before you turn 18. Here's what I wld do: Go to college as planned, concentrate on your school work and socialize w/ different people. If this guy really cares about you, he will pursue you. However, as I said before, anything can happen when you're at college, so don't put all your eggs in one basket. You're still young, so have fun. You only dated this guy for a month, and there are many more guys out there. If, in time, you still find that this guy is "the one", then go for it. But right now, I wld enjoy my younger yrs and focus on my goals for the future. Good luck!