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Stuck in the middle of mom and child

I have a bit of an awkward situation. I am very close with my 15-year-old niece -- she looks up to me kind of as a mentor and an adult she can talk to who is younger and more sympathetic than her parents. I am also very close with my sister (my niece's mom). But my sister always wants me to spill the dirt on what my niece has talked to me about. If there was anything dangerous, I would of course talk to my sister, but it's not that. She's a great kid, but she's having a tough time getting along with her parents right now, just like lots of teens. How do I tell my sister to stop worrying and stop prying into our relationship? I don't want to hurt either of my relationships with my sister or my niece.  



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You should tell her what you just posted -- that your conversations
are private, but if you were worried about anything you'd let your
sister know. That sounds reasonable.

Of course, relatives often are not reasonable.

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Thanks for your advice! I will try that and see how it goes.