I need help! Most advice I've read references a mothers' behavior. Women who are not yet ready to allow their new husband to assist in parenting "her" children. Well, I am a woman who is in the reverse role, dealing with a husband who doesn't want me to say anything to "his" children. "my children" as he refers to them. My husband says they are children of divorce so he feels he has to overcompensate by letting them run the house on their weekends. I am the silent partner who has no say and may not make any suggestions good, bad or indifferent. This has been going on for the past 4 years and as the children are getting older the family situation is getting worse. The children's disrespectful attitude and behavior toward me is not their fault, they are just following what they have been taught by their father There are no rules at our house for the children. I have spoken to my husband and told him that in the long run the children will not have any respect for him either. They need rules, disclipine and guidiance. But I need help on the best way to handle this situation.