Dealing with a 16 yr old with brain trauma
My son was injured in a dirtbike accident August '06, and suffered, among other things, severe brain trauma after coming out of a coma. He was only 2 days into his 16th birthday. He has lost all but one friend, has memory problems, and also behavioral problems at home and in school. In front of others he is sometimes almost like his old self, but alone with me and a select few family members, he behaves rudely, immature, and is argumentative. Different methods have been used to try and get him to understand the way he is behaving, including psychiatry, medication, punishment, talking, etc. but I am at my wits end.
I guess I'm not really looking for "help", so much as just looking for other parents/caregivers who have/are going through anything like this. I need to know how they deal with their teen, but also really how THEY themselves coped while going through it? I feel like I am going insane - my son has a way of making me look like I'm the one with the brain problem, and some people have commented that maybe I need help. I know I desperately need to talk to a professional, but finances prevent me from doing that right now. My mental state is being tested to the extreme, and I just need to see that hopefully there is a light at the end of the tunnel. My son has come a very long way since his injuries, and I'm grateful for every second I am with him, but if I lose any more weight, I'M going to be in need of medical care!
Physically he is almost totally healed, but mentally the doctors say we have another year to go before his brain is fully healed. Any tips, stories, anything that will help me help my son AND help myself will be greatly appreciated.