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Dealing with a 16 yr old with brain trauma

My son was injured in a dirtbike accident August '06, and suffered, among other things, severe brain trauma after coming out of a coma. He was only 2 days into his 16th birthday. He has lost all but one friend, has memory problems, and also behavioral problems at home and in school. In front of others he is sometimes almost like his old self, but alone with me and a select few family members, he behaves rudely, immature, and is argumentative. Different methods have been used to try and get him to understand the way he is behaving, including psychiatry, medication, punishment, talking, etc. but I am at my wits end.

I guess I'm not really looking for "help", so much as just looking for other parents/caregivers who have/are going through anything like this. I need to know how they deal with their teen, but also really how THEY themselves coped while going through it? I feel like I am going insane - my son has a way of making me look like I'm the one with the brain problem, and some people have commented that maybe I need help. I know I desperately need to talk to a professional, but finances prevent me from doing that right now. My mental state is being tested to the extreme, and I just need to see that hopefully there is a light at the end of the tunnel. My son has come a very long way since his injuries, and I'm grateful for every second I am with him, but if I lose any more weight, I'M going to be in need of medical care!

Physically he is almost totally healed, but mentally the doctors say we have another year to go before his brain is fully healed. Any tips, stories, anything that will help me help my son AND help myself will be greatly appreciated.



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Thanks Marti,

It is very difficult. Luckily he wasn't in the hospital for very long (2 months), and my family was very supportive. My husband is StepDad, and he has been wonderful throughout this whole experience. My oldest is living on his own and my youngest (15) has been a big help too. We all make time to be with each other and make sure that nobody is feeling "left out".

My son lost all but one of his friends, because of his attitude and behavior, just like your friend. And I don't blame them in the least bit - I don't know how I would have handled being 16 and having a friend go through this - so I have no anger or anything towards the kids. It's just hard when my son wants to know why 'so and so' hasn't called.

I'll keep him going to the psychiatrist so he'll have someone impartial to talk to, and just wait the next year out until his brain heals, and then take it from there.

 

Thanks, Marti, for listening and letting me 'vent' - it means alot to me!!