Choosing to Stay Single and Childless
I may be the only person on this Website and message board that doesn't have any kids, but I just wanted to let you know that it was the wisest thing that I ever did.
I was raised in a family of eight kids (six brothers; two sisters). Four of my brothers are mentally handicapped (unfortunately, one of them passed away seven years ago), and it wasn't that easy. I used to babysit the youngest handicapped brother out in the back of my parents' house from when I was 13 until I was 17, and he was very hard to handle. My mother had to lock the both the bathroom and front doors, as well as tie him at the bottom of the step, in order to protect him. (Mentally, he has the mind of a six-month-old baby).
Being raised in a Catholic Christian family, my mother taught me about sex, marriage, and relationships from a Catholic/Biblical point of view.
When I was 16, we had some tests done to find out why my mother was having retarded children, and they couldn't find out why.
I was a teenager during the 1970's, and it also the time of the feminist movement. Although Green Acres was my favorite show growing up, That Girl with Marlo Thomas inspired me to be a single career woman. I did not want to stay home and be a housewife and a mother; I wanted a career and travel. Being raised in a family of handicapped brothers wasn't that easy, but with the grace of God, my parents got through it.
Also, during the early 70's, there was an episode of the Bill Cosby show, in which a woman has her baby during a thunderstorm. I have had a fear of thunderstorms ever since I was a kid, and I just couldn't picture myself being in that situation. It was this episode, plus my Catholic Christian upbringing, being raised in a family of eight kids, especially with handicapped brothers, not having patience with children, and my desire to have a career and travel, made me decided that I did not want to get married and have kids, and I don't regret it one bit..
Being single and childless gives me the freedom to do what I please. I can go to work knowing that an employer can count on me to stay the entire day without having to worry about if my child is sick or any of the other demands that come with raising a family. I can come home to a peaceful household, and I'm saving the thousands of dollars that it costs to raise a child today. I know some people have told me that I should have become a nun, work and career is my calling. Give me the single and childless life anytime.
Thank you for letting me share my views on this subject.