Cant live like this anymore???????????
Where do i start??? Ok here goes!!! I have been in a defacto relationship for 7 years i have 2 children . 1 son 8yrs and a daughter 11yrs. my partner has helped me raise the children since my youngest was 1yrs. he had 3 children to a previous relationship Boy 9, boy 10 and a daughter 11. his ex partner took off with the 3 children 7 yrs ago when his youngest was 18mths old .he hadnt llaid eyes on them or heard where they were for the 7 yrs we have been together. about 12 months ago we had to relocate as he had found out where they were living . family services got involved as they werent being lcared for and hadnt had schooling for about 18mnths it all went to family court which ended with them coming to live with us 10 months ago. with the mother having suprvised visits. she visited them once in that 10 months then no word so family court has givin full custody to my partner . the 10 year old and daighter have settled in really well with us and our other 2 children as they went without for so long they are happy for what they have now but the youngest one has never fit in by his own choice he was apparently the spoilt one with mum and the onther 2 missed out on physical and emotional effection . the youngest stepson also seems to be only 5yrs in the way he behaves , the way he speaks as in rudley swearing name calling spitting. has no idea of hiegine or how to behave when out or even with us its like she never let him grow up. he even treats his own siblings babdly and rudley let alone my 2 children. it has never gotten better with him it is getting worse as we go on he has threatened my son and older stepson with petrol and lighter , threatened to stab them while they sleep. he has no respect for teachers at school always backchatting and swearing at them . he never bathes unless told to . it was my partners birthday recently and he spat on cake so no-one could have any. his own brother and sister dont want to live here with him and my 2 children are finding it hard as they have always had a nice happy family . He has pushed me to the point that i want to remove my 2 children and leave the man i love as every day its worse and it is breaking me . the 2 other step children want to come with me if i go . my partner seems to be hell bent on keeping him here as he is his son but doesnt see what he his subjecting us to with the bad son still living with us . the family i had is falling apart and i dont know what else to do but leave , which will effect all other kids concerned as they love their dad and so do I . but love doesnt seem to be enough antmore to tolerate him. he has pushed so far that it makes me physiaclly sick to look at him i dont like him and i know it is to late to change that . if he was never to be in our lives again it would be the best news i could here. my partner works alot and doesnt see what we put up with he says i am a cruel [filtered word] ??? Am I ???? he doesnt understand that he has had my children in his life for 7 years and this little [filtered word] has been with us for 10 months how can that be a comparison. i just want him out . i cant contact child services as i dont want him to punish me for that in the future . but i would really like him to realise what it is doing to the other 4 children as i see it 4 content kids are better than one malicious , crule kid . their is alot more to whats happening but cant write it all now would like some ideas on how i can show my partener that removing him would be beneficial for the other 4 children without him feeling guilty for it later . we have tried the soft approach the hard approach, calling his bluff when he packs and say im going i dont want to be here and now we are doing it again it seems we are going around in circles with no ending . its even gotten to the stage when he is rude to my partner he lets him get away with it but when the other children misbehave or are smart mouthing he tells them off in front of the other child . he then informs me that when he disciplines the other child he does it away from us so as i see it he sees them get into trouble but they dont see him get into trouble which is making the other 4 kids start to resent their father im at my wits end . we dont get support from my family as they live interstate and his parents dont want him either or even want to help out by taking him for over nighters so we get a break his mum said he is to high maintence and that makes me angry as he is her paternal grandchild he is nothing to me but expects to do it please can some help me as i dont want to break up my family because of one . thanks By at my wits end