why has it gotten so bad?
I have a 3 and a half year old little girl. She is very smart and kind. she has a wonderful imagination and can be the sweetest thing in the world. She has always been a leader, very strong willed and independent. tough qualities in a kid her age, but wonderful qualities to have as an adult. Her temper tantrums last anywhere from 15 minutes to 1 and 45 minutes. she goes from being a sweet, cooperative child, to a demon, uncontrollable teenager. I have tried taking toys away, time outs, videos away, spanking, screaming, talking softly, but nothing seems to be working. My husband and i are to the point of mental exhaustion. We have an appointment with a therapist this week. i feel that she is gotten so bad that we can not figure out what to do anymore. she has had two major surgeries and a total of 5 hospitalizations in her short life. her last hospitalization and surgery happenned in march. could she have PTSD or a medical condition? she used to self hurt, around 2 years of age, went away, but it has started again. we received a letter from her preschool teachers, questioning us if we were disciplining her at home. she suggested some books, but i think that we are way past reading books now. she is not hurting others at preschool, but refuses to participate and will cry for a while at times. any advice is welcomed. can she be bipolar?