Sibling Rivalry and Disrespectful
Hi Everyone, New on here and am need of some advice.
I have a son who is 10yrs old and a daughter who is almost 9yrs old. They are always fighting with each other over ANYTHING! Whether is toys, video games, or even came down to looking at each other. They are abusive to each other at times. Hitting, scratching, biting, kicking. You name it. Its non-stop fighting and my husband and I are lost at what to do with that. I tried the "Get along [filtered word]" didn't work.. Time outs and make them hold their hands. Hugging each other. Grounding them to their rooms. Taking EVERYTHING from them. You name it, we've tried..
And than my loving 10yr old boy who is acting like a 30yrs stuck in his body sometimes. My husband and I have been together for 5yrs and married for 1yr. My husband is not their biologic father. He has been out of the picture since my husband and I got together. The biologic father was abusive to me for years till I finally got away and my son saw a lot of it, unfortunately. My son is very abusive to his sister and very disrespectful to my husband and me. To any adult really. He never listens to anything we say. Tell him to stay in the yard and he takes off. If he doesn't get his way, he throws a tantrum like a 1yr old would. He's very angry all the time and when being punished he sometimes threatens to kill himself or run away. I'm lost at what to do. It breaks my heart all the time to see him like this. I swear he's always in trouble and I'm afraid he's going to be going down the wrong road. My husband and I argue all the time about what to do with my son. We are feeling more like referees than parents. Please help