Pregnancy
Discussion Title: seeking pushover moms (like myself....)
Created by: sheprip2
Created on: Sat, 07/26/2008 - 11:37pm.
Created by: sheprip2
Created on: Sat, 07/26/2008 - 11:37pm.
Hi
I'm writing an article on limit setting and why it's sometimes so hard to say "no" to our kids. I'm collecting stories from moms about situations they've given into their kids -- even though they knew better (like buying the sugar cereal your kid saw on TV, so you can get the hell out of the grocery store...) Is anybody willing to share other examples of times they've caved (and why?) thanks so much! Leah
- Login or register to reply
- report spam
Replied: 7/27/2008 8:09pm.
I view my bedroom as my own personal space and made it a rule that my kids sleep somewhere else (in their own rooms or downstairs on the couch.) But, my daughter came in the other night and asked if she could please sleep in my room because she didn't feel well. I was too tired to deal with it, so I gave in. That however was a very bad idea because none of us got any sleep. Then we had 3 exhausted people who didn't feel very well instead of just one.
Replied: 7/28/2008 9:50pm.
I have a hard time sticking to "no", when I hear my kids cry. I'm getting better, but it still kills me to hear them cry. One expl wld be when my son wanted a cookie too close to dinner, and I said no. Then he started to cry b/c he saw his brother eating a cookie an hr before, so I gave in. Bad, I know, but I am getting better.
Replied: 9/27/2008 9:25pm.
I have one child a 5 year old son and he walks all over me.I may say no but if he starts to cry i always give in.I will give you a example .Last friday i want to deposit my pay check and went to the mall to get my son some new pjs.When we got to Walmart I told my son he could get a $5 toy.After getting 8 sets of pjs we went to look at toys.My son wanted a transformer i told him there where 3 for $4.88 he could get one.After 20 minutes of crying for a $49.99 transformer i caved but he was so happy and said thank you over and over.When we went to pay i relized i forgot my atm card at home and only had $75 on me.I put the pjs back and got the toy but told him no toy next week.The next week comes and i go to Walmart to get things we need.I tell my son we can get a movie to watch together.He seen a transformer video game and started.My son starts to cry for the trandsformer video game and i get it for him.The way i see it i am only going to have my son i can't have no more kids.I can afford to buy him anything so why not spoil him.
Replied: 9/28/2008 9:18am.
Two reasons not to spoil him.
1. When he is a grown up it is unlikely that his employer will give him a paycheck just because he wants one bad enough to cry for it.
2. The rest of society needs your son to develop his gifts and talents, even when it is hard for him to do so, because your son has some unique contribution to make to society.
Replied: 9/28/2008 11:53am.
Stefaniel, at the moment your son is only five and maybe you can afford what he cries for. What happens when he is older and you can't afford to give him what he wants. As he gets older and stronger, his demands will probably turn to menace and maybe even violence to get what he wants. How are you going to cope with that. You should try and get control of the situation now. A little bit of spoiling is one thing, but this little boy is running your life.