Rivalry between a 1 & 3 yr old
I am having problems with my step daughter who is 3, being mean to my one year old. She is very jealous of any time or attention the baby gets. She has been pushing and hitting her when she doesn't want her around. And she is always telling her "no", even when the one year old picks up her own toys. We try to give equal attention to both children, but Madison just seems very angry that her little sister can now get into all the toys and what not.
We have told her that soon her sister will be able to talk and play games with her. We have also been giving her time-outs for hitting and pushing. This doesn't seem to be changing anything. It is also very difficult because Madison is only with us for part of the week. It feels like every weekend we have to start at the beginning again. I have also been try to tell her that we will tell her sister when she can't do something and that she can tell mommy and daddy if Ava is bothering her.
Any suggestion on how to help them get along, and stop the hitting??