Only Child with Cousins...
My son is 4, and an only child. He's been in daycare his whole life, and, for the most part, is a very happy, well adjusted child. At school, he was getting bossy. If he didn't get his way, hw would occasionally get so angry, he would throw something (usually the toy he wanted) at the other child. Of course he would be sent up front. I was st a loss as to how to help, as I never saw this at home. If I told him "no," he never quarrels. He accepts, and happily finds something else to do. And it wasn't consistent, either. Once or twice a month, out of no where.
I bring this up because I recently had to pull him out of the all day program. My sister and I alternate sitting, and cut daycare costs to zero. All in all, we're very fortunate.
But suddenly I'm a part time mom of three! Two four year olds and a two year old! The girls are adjusting. Time outs are making what was barely constrained mahem into something I can manage. Rules are being followed... but my son is turning into a pod person.
He's making "sharing" into a rule that means he gets toys as he wants them. He's lying if he thinks he's about to get into trouble. He's regressing... this morning as I was making breakfast, he drew all over a couch cushion with a pen, then tried to blame it on the two years old. As soon as they go home, he's the respectful obedient child I know.
I keep time outs. I take away priviledges. I made him "clean" the cushion before I put in the wash. So far, it's getting worse.
I know part of it is jealousy, but how can I reassure him if I'm constantly pointing to the time out chair?
Any advice would help...