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How do I get my 3 year old to go to bed without a tantrum?

Every night I try to get my 3 year old to go to bed and it is a huge battle. We end up watching her taped shows until I cant take anymore or she falls asleep. I want to get her to bed so that she is in bed at a decent time and so that I may watch my shows. But whenever I try to get her to bed without the shows and Im tired and wanna go to bed myself, she screams and throws a fit until my mother comes to the scene and once again I am the bad parent. What do I do? Ive tried reading books- no good, singing lulabys- no good, snuggling-no good. I dont know what to do.



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Sleep is a big problem for a lot of kids. One of my daughters discovered that her daughter fell asleep better if she had a nap in the afternoon, too. When I was doing day-care, I would have a time in the afternoon when the kids had to remain quiet on their mats/beds for all of Beethoven's 1st movement of his 1st symphony--it's about 10 minutes long. They could get up when the music stopped, but they usually slept. I'd wake them after an hour. Those that I had at night, I also used the music for bedtime: They had their snack & drink, brushed their teeth, had story, prayers, and went potty, and I asked them if they needed anything else. Then I put on the music and told them that they were to stay in bed until the music stopped. I would check on them after about 15 minutes. Once one boy was still awake--turned out he just needed to chat about some trouble he was having. I put on the music again and he went right off.
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mayamay
The only thing I worry about is--what happens when those kids are all grown-up and driving down the freeway, and Beethoven's 1st Symphony comes on the radio--they might fall asleep!
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Frustratedmom29
Lol! I dont know if they would fall asleep! The only problem is that my daughter just likes to dance to music. It doesnt matter what type of music. I dont know. I do have a good singing voice since I studied music in college. I guess i could try singing again. But It didnt work before. I will try again!
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mayamay
Is there a sibling, too? That would make things a little more complicated.
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Frustratedmom29
No no sibling. She is my only child.
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mayamay
One of the things that made my strategy work is that the children could trust that if they weren't able to sleep, they could come out. It made it so they could relax and just wait for the music to end. That wouldn't work with you singing.
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Frustratedmom29
I dont have a stereo in my room to play any music. I dont have a tv in there either. So I can only read to her or sing to her.
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mayamay
Oh, that stinks.
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Yep!
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KimmyO
I am a Mom of four kids aging from 11 months to almost 8 years old. Two eldest are girls and the two youngest are boys. The best thing that I have learned over the years with discipline is to be strict and I guess sort of short with kids when you are giving them direction. When it comes to bed time I wouldn't linger to much. Read them a story or sing a song while doing that give them your full attention. After book I usually let them ask me a couple questions like what was your dogs name when you were little etc lol. Then I say one more question then bed time. They will try to keep you in the room for ever but just get up and turn off the light after a kiss and then leave hall light on. Leave the room right away. Don't him and haw at all. You giving them room to talk and toy with you. Let them freak out for 5 minutes or so, then stand in door way and say, I love you and it's bed time goodnight. leave again right away. don't linger. It will be hard for a week or so.