How to discipline my child during a playdate when the kid he's playing with is tattling
Hi, my son does not listen when he's playing rough during play dates. He will be happily building a train or something else with a friend, then all of a sudden get very rough and start wrecking the tracks and when asked by the other child to stop, he won't.
It's very hard to get my son to focus on one task, but with alot of effort, we can eventually get him to engage in something else. It is said that he may be adhd but it's still very early stages
This one friend my son has tattles on his every move. With using a reward chart, our son has slowly started doing alot better with behaviour during play dates, etc.. he's still needing refocusing when he gets impulsive. We are working very hard with him.. this new friend seems to make it impossible for our son to progress, because there is always a set back when he's here.. he knows what things make our son agitated, so when he's acting up, I will try to get him to stop or his friend will leave, and in the middle of it, the friend will be continuing to say things or ask things that he knows makes our son act up.
So, in between trying to discipline my child, I also have a tattler who seems to keep getting his way, because I always feel like because he's our guest, he should get this or that. It goes unnoticed with the dad whose always telling me how great my son is doing and how far he's come, so during that, I'm seeing how manipulative his son is being, but he fails to see it, because he's so busy trying to make me feel better about things with my son.
The friend I feel is seeking attention who makes up things to get us to come running to his rescue. I'm seeing this pattern alot. He cannot just play with my son for 5 minutes without trying to make him mad. even when he's not finding things wrong, the tiniest thing will set him off and he will run and tell us my son is scaring him...
I'm at a loss at what to do. Because I know my son is impulsive and makes quick moves and sometimes destroys things that have been built (will be more understood if he gets the adhd diagnosis), but other times he does really well... why do kids only focus on the negative? can't they see the good in each other? why is this friend only playing on my son's weaknesses? why do kids do this? and my biggest question is : at this time while we're trying to help our son, is this a healthy friend to have right now?