We just did a Clean Sweep of our son's stuff. He will be 8 in a few weeks. It was suggested to us to do. Everything from his room is in boxes, unfortunately in our room. We took all priviledges from him and took all items out of his room, except his bed, clothes, and books. Books were left because of him loving them and their educational importance, but also too to be the LAST straw, if we needed one more thing. Now he has to earn everything back... which includes tv, computer, toys, etc. We have gotten some better behavior. Now alot of our problems are dealing with his interactions with his younger brother, and I must say that most of it is the younger brothers fault. Just an idea to try. Good luck.

I was totally a lazy kid!
And I hated it as much, if not more, than my parents did.
I didn't understand at all why I was like that, and I wished I could have been different, like my sister, who always had energy.
I've thought about it a lot, because it still effects my life, even though I am an alright adult and work and everything.
I was lazy, and I also "forgot" a lot. Sometimes I knew what I was doing but often I did not until confronted later on.
Children aren't naturally lazy. I do think they like to relax, and rest when they are tired, but usually they like to be doing something or watching someone else do something, learning something new or fine tuning the skills they have. See: video games.
The problem for me was that I did not have a way to tell my parents that I was being asked to do too much. Not too much in terms of quantity of work, but too much in terms of my capabilities. It sort of became a vicious cycle, too, so I always felt bad about not doing well enough, but was afraid to try harder in fear that they would demand more, and then I'd maybe disappoint them again. So sad!
I'm SURE your daughter will be able to do what you want her to do. Maybe she can do it now, maybe it will be a little while, but it is her choice when she will display her skills and abilities. She can hide them if she wants to.
Don't worry too much.
But I'm glad you care and notice the situation. Maybe you can get a different perspective that is helpful from my story?
Let me know!
Amy