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sherriann_1969

help...

10/03/2011 at 03:06 PM.

I recently took into my home my 5 year old nephew. He lived with my mother since he was 5.5 months old. This was the first time meeting him. I've had a very difficult time trying to get him to listen to me. He defies everything I say. I've tried rewarding him, i've tried time outs..he has not been listening in school either, running from class and being distructive. I'm burning out fast. My mother has COPD and can no longer care for him. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.



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mayamay
10/3/2011 at 04:53 PM

I don't know if there is any effective intervention. I would recommend the two of you get in to see a family therapist ASAP.

Completely disrupting the child's home will lead to disruptive behavior. You have a good heart, but this is a huge challenge. I'll pray for you.

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weigh
10/4/2011 at 05:39 AM

Yup..It actually happens when there is distance between two persons. But it just get solve by the pass of time..

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SkillaDo
10/5/2011 at 06:32 AM

Well, it’s all about the emotional attachment of the child. You both need time to get compatible with each other. Ask your mom your nephew’s like & dislikes. Get to know the things & activities that make him happy! Provide him with quality time and it will get easier in time. Good Luck

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sherriann_1969
10/5/2011 at 03:23 PM
I feel like it's a loosing game at this point. He has now started to hit my baby who is not even 1 yet. We caught him hitting her 3 times yesterday and when we scold him and tell him we don't hit he just smiles and acts like he could care less. I had to call my brother to pick him up from school today because he was being disruptive again; running out of class and hitting other students, running in the halls and hollering. I've talked to my mom regarding this behavior and if he was doing this before but the thing is is he's never been around other people much. It was pretty much only him and my mom and the occasional visitors. I don't know if I can do this, not since he's started to hit the baby.
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junieg
10/8/2011 at 06:23 AM
You can not leave him alone with your baby if he is going to hit her. He definitely needs counselling and needs it fast. His life has been so disrupted and he is acting out the only way he knows how. He desperately needs help.
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SkillaDo
10/10/2011 at 02:27 AM
You might try planning routines for him. Help him to understand and know when to brush his teeth, specific time to wake up, studying, lunch, dinner and so on. Routine helps provide the hyperactive child with a game plan for how life will occur. As a parent, try to control your anger when he starts acting out. Explain to him patiently about how his bad behavior will result in certain consequences. When he hits your small baby, do not send him to his room for an hour or so. Angry responses on your part like screaming or hitting will tend to increase negative behavior in him. Sit down with him and let him play with your little one (under your supervision). Proper attention, endless love, and building up emotional attachment with him are the keys to building up and improving his good attitude. I would suggest you to try this for 7-10 days and see if you experience any difference. Good Luck!
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Matthew82
10/11/2011 at 01:00 PM
I know this is off topic and im sorry, But how do you make your own thread? I am new here and i cant find the option to make my own post. Let me know please
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SkillaDo
10/13/2011 at 04:39 AM
Hello Matthew82, Visit - familyeducation forum . You see ‘Discussions’? Now CLICK on the category or sub category where you want to post NEW Thread. For example, I want to post a NEW Thread in School › Special Needs. You will see an option - Login to create a new discussion. Hope this helps :) Thanks
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Matthew82
10/13/2011 at 03:10 PM
Did all of those steps and when im at the Discipline section, under discussions forum and logged in. Im at the part where it list everyone's thread discussions they made in discipline. And have scrolled up and down every where on this page and dont see a create a new discussion under discipline area anywhere. What do i do and where is the button for that? Would like to post a topic but just not getting the option too.
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mayamay
10/13/2011 at 05:30 PM
Me either. Firefox?