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Discussion Title: discipline aggresive teen with mental illness
Created by: christina3... Created on: Wed, 07/23/2008 - 1:28pm. I have a 13 yr old boy that has adhs & odd . The doctors are also r/o bipolar disorder. He is currently taking medication which does help but one one the things that he use to do is have anger out burst 3 to 4 time a week. Now he has less may 1 every 1 to 2 weeks but they are more intense the last one was so bad . He attached his step father and in an attempts to defend their father his sibling got involved and my son got hurt along with my husband. The situation got totally out of control and my son is at a stage that i no longer know what he is capable of and i am scared for him and my family. So if any one has any comments or suggestion please reply. My son is in anger management and counseling on a weekly basis.
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Replied: 7/23/2008 2:06pm.
It's good that your son is getting counceling. I wld definitely stick w/ that. Also consider family counceling. Continue to have a dr regulate your son's meds. Discuss his behavior w/ the dr as well. Maybe he can benefit from a different medication, but of course, discuss this w/ the dr first. One thing I've heard that cld help as well wld be to put your son in activities that will help him realease his agressions (i.e.--track, wrestling, swimming...). Keep your son focused and busy w/ things he likes to do, and try to focus less on the negative behavior. If he does still act out, however, set consequences. He has to understand that his behavior is not ok. You need to nip this in the bud before it gets worse and someone gets seriously hurt. I wish you the best in your efforts to help your son.
Replied: 7/23/2008 11:28pm.
Please read other posts about ADHD/ODD/BiPOLAR etc. If this child is hurting others in the family, at that moment, you must call police or outside help. You cannot allow this behavior. As soon as it happens, call the doctor immediately and discuss the situation. Are there triggers? Is it a case of building up frustration? Whatever, the meds are not stabilizing the situation enough at this point. If he may be bipolar, ADHD meds make it worse unless both are treated at the same time. I have a soon to be 14 year old who finally has been stabilized on meds from this type of behavior and have posted some info on other messages. Please read them. I know what you are talking about. I've been there. It sounds mean, but could actually help more than hurt.
Replied: 7/25/2008 2:06am.
i thought about karate beause it an build self esteem confidene self disipline and it would work on his onentration but i am afaird that he would use what he learns and end up hurting someone he has been asking to play football again i am afaird that he would hurt someone he like skateboarding doing bike trick due to the fact that he does get sare to try the rick he take the chance and he has done some difficult trick and as far as consequence it hard to set consequence for me beause i feel that the consequence do not meet the behavior i feel that i am too strict or not strict enough w/ the onsequene any sugestion would be appreciated
Replied: 7/25/2008 2:17am.
due to his last incident it has been deide thsat the crisis line and polie would be called that way everyone in the family would be protected in the past when we have a big ordeal w/ him i do call either the counseler or phy. or both i am learning to figure out his trigger sometime it hard one trigger that i def. know is that if he doesn't get enough sleep or his quality of sleep is off he will be more moody,sensitive,crying agrressive, he is all over the plae. i recenly spoke to an aunt of mine that works w/ children who have autism and she think that he show some signs of autism the dr r working on geting a neurpsychiologial exam to see if there is something going on in the brain that can explain his behavior so now i wait and research scool start aug 6 and that will bring some change in his behave hopefully not bad one but he does not do well w/ change thank for your comment it nice to know people care now a day about other to help thanks