Dealing with a stubborn 11 year old
My 11 year old son called me today at work very upset with his sitter. We have had issues all summer that we have surmised based on conversations with him and with the sitter basically stem from him not getting to do things when he wants to do them. In essence, he does not want to listen to her even though we have told him that she is acting on our behalf. She watched our two children last summer and everything went well. Our other child has no issue with the sitter. He was upset with the sitter today because she wouldn't let him sleep in longer and tried to make him do some summer homework assignments by a certain time so they could all go to a local water park this afternoon. He perceived her as being unfair and uncaring. One thing the sitter and I agreed would help after talking today would be to set up a schedule for each day so everyone would know the expectations for what needed to be accomplished each day, both fun and otherwise, and by when. My husband is very upset with our son that he is not listening our sitter and, therefore, not listening to us. He thinks the consequences need to be severe, like taking stuff away like some fun events coming up that our son has been looking forward to, but I don't think this is the best approach, but I am unsure what is. Any suggestions?