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nhoj

5 yr old son is impossible when upset

when our son gets upset he whines and complains continuously, for example when he can't get something his way. he's so stubborn. when we tell him there will be a consequence he just gets more rude and annoying. when we sit him in a time out he yells at us and says mean things while being timed out. it seems the best approach is to be firm and consistent and just keep following the same rules until certain behaviors become extinct, but he's so stubborn. he really knows how to push our buttons.

how do you handle this?



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global44

Hi NHO,
I am a mother of two grown children. My son the oldest prove to be the most trying. Tantrums must be met each time with firm and consistent actions. So you are on the right path. I would suggest that you not respond verbally to his ranting. Hopefully, his father or male figure is actively involved. I would also suggest that you lower you voice to include more bass. It is my expierence that more bass in the voice for woman is essential. Finally, check his diet for sugar and other foods that might be causing a reaction that manifest itself in bad behavior.

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SnglDad

When my kids started to develop this type of behavior, I would spank them. Now I know in todays softer and gentler world spanking is seen as barbaric and violent, but one pop on the hind end was all it took. I watched as my sister-in-law would make deals, count, and try time-outs to no avail. My kids learned very young just how far they could go. Now they are 13 and 10 and I cannot remember the last time I spanked them. Their cousin; his mom is still counting, making deals, and unable to control this kid, and he’s older than my two.