5 year old acting out
Hi, I'm new and looking for some advice. I have a wonderful 5 year old boy who is sweet as can be most of the time. He can be very angry and aggressive at times however and I can't figure out why. When he was a bit younger we had trouble training him to go to bed and at times I spanked him after I had warned him several times and he kept coming out of his room. He still did it however and I didn't feel that continued spanking was going to do any good and I don't want that to be our discipline.
So, here's the current story. For many months I have been very patient with him and we have tried very hard to be sure and give him positive attention often. He has a 1 year old sister so we have been careful to give him "Colton" time. He started Kindergarten this year and his teacher says he does pretty well overall but is aggressive with the other children at times. doesn't keep his hands to himself all the time. ( I understand she means just reaches for what he wants or wrestles with other kids during class). Otherwise he is well behaved
At home: In the mornings he seems to always give his mother a hard time. he is grumpy and says he does not want to go to school. late running to the bus at times or needs to be driven other days. Says he hates school and doesn't want to go.
Every night without fail he says he is hungry. If he did not eat much for dinner then we sometimes will allow healthy snacks like carrots and apples. If he has had enough we tell him to go to sleep but he tries it every night.
Is it all normal? My wife says we need super nanny. One thing I worry about with all of it is that if it goes too far and he really acts up a lot i'll spank his hands or bottom (not terribly hard) then he cries a little, hugs us and then is happy. Complete turn around. It almost seems like he craves a spanking. I don't want that! How do I retrain him?