My kids are young, so I haven't had to face this stage of the game yet. I can only imagine how scary it must feel not knowing where your child is at all times. I am not looking forward to the teenage yrs after hearing stories such as this. As a teenager, I can remember rebelling once I got my license and felt more independent. I used to waitress at a local restaurant and didn't usually get home until after midnight. I didn't have my own car, but my parents let me use their car for work. I think I was about your son's age, maybe a little older, when I decided to go out to a party after work w/ some friends. Back then, we didn't have cell phones like kids have now. When I got home (around 3 a.m.), I tried to sneak into the house as quietly as possible. When I got inside, I found my dad sitting on the couch waiting up for me. At that pt, I knew I was busted. He asked me where I had been, and like your son, I lied. Later, I found out that my dad had called the restaurant where I worked, and the manager had told him I had left 3 hrs before. I was grounded, the car keys taken away for 2 wks. My parents also told me if I was old enough to stay out all hrs of the night, then I was old enough to be more responsible around the house. My mom then came into the room w/ a full laundry basket, a dust rag and a mop. They made me stay up all night, clean the house, and wash, fold and put away laundry. That same morning (at 11 a.m.), I was scheduled to work a double shift at the restaurant. Needless to say, I went to work (my dad drove me--embarrassing enough) completely exhausted. I was on auto pilot the whole day. I have to say I learned the hard way from that experience. Encourage your son to be honest w/ you if he wants you to trust him. If the trust and respect are there, then he will get many privileges that he desires. However, if your son breaks that trust, he has to face the consequences. Stick to your guns, and GOOD LUCK!