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Garddeningmamma

11 year old who won't apply herself in school

My oldest daughter is 11 and in 5th grade. She rushes through her work all the time and then can't remember what she learned. She acts like she doesn't care at all.

I have tried to talk to her, help her with her homework, punish her for bad grades and nothing seems to work. She just got an ipod for Christmas and it's been taken away more then she's had it. Taking TV privileges away hasn't work b/c I have 3 other kids and one TV, so they get punished too then everyone is miserable. She's also not been allowed to go over friends or have anyone over for a week or two.

NOthing seems to work and I can't seem to get her to understand that next year in Middle School it's going to be A LOT harder and a lot more work.

Any suggestions?



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Sounds like the fact that she enjoys her IPOD and loves going over friends homes could be that she is trying to isolate herself. When a person is not inspired by school study becomes very difficult. Try making her passion for social contact with friends work on your behalf. If you know any of her friends that do well in school, speak to their parent and make arrangements for your daughter to do homework with this other student at the other students house. The other child's inspiration could rub off on your daughter and the fact that your child is in different surroundings may make her look forward to studying in this new way.

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Garddeningmamma

Thanks for responding. My rule has always been to do homework as soon as they get home from school, so the homework thing isn't a problem. Her biggest problem is classwork and other projects she has to do.

I'm very familiar with the differences between middle school and elementary school in my area. I currently have a son in high school, so I know that things will get a lot harder next year. That's why I'm trying to get her on the right path now.