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cliffjg

1-2-3 Magic discipline

I am reading 1-2-3 magic. I love the book.

My 8 year old daughter does not move things along very quickly.

When tying her shoes getting ready for school, I praised her and helped her tye one of her sneakers to get us going.

Do you think this is the right thing to do?

Should there be counting or is what I did with praising her and assisting for motivation a good idea.

My wife does not think I should have helped.

I am not trying to bias your opinion.

I have an 8 and a 3 year old daughter. It's tough sometimes.

Any ideas??

Thank You

 



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concerned mom

I think you did the right thing praising your daughter, then helping her, especially if you were in a rush. Try getting her to tie her shoes and complete other tasks more quickly when you're not so pressed for time. Give her an incentive for completing such tasks in a timely fashion. If you see she still pokes along when you're in a time crunch, and she's doing it to get a rise out of you, nip that in the bud right away. I've sent my son to school w/ one sock on after he insisted on putting it on himself but took his pleasant time about it. I knew he was capable of doing it, but for some reason he decided to give me a hard time. I think he felt pretty silly going to school w/ only one sock, and after explaining to his teacher that I wasn't losing it, she decided it was best to leave the other sock off too. Since that incident, he's always worn 2 socks to school, and he now puts them on all by himself. My son is 5, so we make a game out of it. I say, let's see how fast you can get dressed today. Then I start counting. This gets him to move quickly, and it makes the whole experience more fun. I also don't get frustrated, which is an added plus!