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sandramezuniga84

Way to many problems with 6yr old

My son is in the first grade and having more problems then he ever has! He's been to three different schools in the past two yrs due to us being military. His first two schools he had some problems in but nothing major. But this year it's a parents nightmare!!! He has slowly regressed instead of improving. He's not listening in class, will not do his classwork, talking to much.He even started lieing bout things and that's not like him. Until he started this year of school he has always been honest and not had a major problems with discipline. I got a phone call from his teacher this morning and was told he might have to repeat 1st grade. I know he doesnt like his school at all, well I dont either but I feel like we as a family are spinning out of control. Not only are we have problems at school but here at the house as well. My son comes up to my shoulders already and is half my weight. He's starting to push and trying to hit me. He does the same with his brother when he's mad.. I'm really lost and concerened about my son and the behavior. I've tried time out, taking thing's away, reward system,sitting down and talking to him and nothing is working!!! With my husband gone alot it all fall's on me and I'm breaking under all of this.



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AlabamaX3

I'd suggest family counseling/therapy. Even without your sons recent issues its a good way to help relieve the stress. You get to share the load with someone who will listen and can help all of you deal with the emotional turmiol.
A 6year old has all the emotions an adult does, they just don't understand them and may act out without knowing why.
I wish you and your family the best and I hope it gets better. Good luck and God bless.

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sandramezuniga84

I've been thinking about that. I know my husband was raised way differently than me. His father was very stricked with him, and if he didnt do what he was suppost to he got spanked. To me his dad probly went overboard with it. Since my husband thinks every problem we have can be solved with a spanking.. It makes it hard in this house, since my husband has only been living with us for 3yrs. One year when we got stationed in New York, shortly after we moved up there he got deployed. After he came back we moved to Ga and ever since then it's been really hard for my oldest and for me. I know he'd rather be in Texas and so would I but as a family we dont want to seperate. Thanks for your advice, anything new idea is worth me trying!

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AlabamaX3

I don't know about GA but here in AL corporal punishment is still used in schools. Its hard to tell your child that hitting is bad, when their own teacher can hit them with a paddle! Welcome to the Deep South.

You said you're trying lots of things, and that's great, because eventually you'll find what works. If you can, try counseling, its not so bad, really.

Be consistent, and stick to your guns. Make your rules and expectations clear, and follow through on punishments and rewards.

Something else that might be helpful; We have a weekly family night where we eat pizza, play a board game, and talk about problems and issues we've had that week. Just an open conversation where the kids can complain about whatever they want(not each other) without interuption or anyone trying to offer advice (or interrogation lol). Granted my hubby (exmarine) thinks its stupid, he at least plays the game and eats pizza and offers up crazy complaints. I've learned a lot about what goes on at school from those family nights that I might not have heard otherwise.

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jen44498

I am having a very similar problem at my house. I have a six year old who has behavior issues, but only at school.It has gotten so bad that they have had to call me to come pick him up.It scares me because he actually hit and kicked the teacher and destroyed her classroom by pulling all the books off her shelves in his anger rage over not wanting to take a spelling test.His dad came and picked him up and made him clean up the mess, which he did. They cannot seem to get him to do his school work and on some days.It doesent matter how much I talk to him.He is so sweet and kind to his brothers and me, he is actually my most helpful child. His other brothers are very sweet and respectful of adults, but when he gets mad, he loses all self control, yelling at kids and hitting the teachers, it is always related to doing his classwork. After he cools off, he always apologizes but I am at my wits end as to how to make him behave at school.I have taken things away, talking to him, nothing works. Its scares me because he actually says very mean things (scary things) to his teacher when he is mad, and it concerns me that he might actually hurt someone when he gets older.No one seems to be able to tell me what causes this or how to handle it. I would love some advice.