tspreeuw's picture

My son doesn't want me to leave him at school

My son is 6 and just started kindergarten. He's been going to daycare since he was 6 weeks old so me dropping him off is not by any means a new thing. He definitely has always had a touch of anxiety. When it gets the best of him he tends to kind of shut down. At these times, nothing gets through to him. There's no bribing him, no coersing him. He just has to snap out of it in his own time/way. He's never had separation anxieties especially not when I've dropped him off at daycare. Well we're 3 weeks into the school year and so far every day I've gone to drop him off (minus 2-3 days), he shuts down and doesn't want me to leave him and won't let go of me. Well I know not to stick around and coddle. I look to the teacher to come and peel him off and take him. I say bye and walk away. He even knows that drill. I have no qualms about the school and I also know as soon as he snaps out of it that he LOVES school and has a blast. I also know that he is well liked and very well behaved. I've had to walk him into the school instead of just dropping him off at the door (because when I tried that, he couldn't get out of the car and I was holding up the line). What I want to know is any suggestions on avoiding the "shut down." Ideally I want to. Be able to pull up, let him jump out of the car, tell him I love him and bye! Realistically I know it won't be that easy. How do I get him into the school without causing a shut down? Is there a way to avoid it? Help, please!

mayamay's picture

I think this is just a behavior that has turned into a habit. Share your vision with him of how going to school ought to look. Ask him to help you make that story the true story. Then, on a Saturday, practice 3 or four times. Tell him that on Monday, it might still be hard to make it work, and that he can get better at it every day. Celebrate small successes as he achieves them.

motherspride123's picture

Hi , i faced the same thing when i dropped my son at the kindergarten on day one. But slowly he adapted and liked going to school.Thanks to Mother's Pride school who really took care of my son .