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benbuck6

My 1st grader having problems

I have a 1st grade son, and he gets in troube EVERY day at school for talking or getting up out of his desk.  His grades are near perfect.

Bible - 100 (memory verses)

Math - 99

Reading - 100

English - 97

The ONLY thing he misses in math is when he skips problems because he overlooked them.

They have Accelerated Reading and he met his A/R goal in 2 weeks.  He is currently reading at about a 3.5 grade level.

We have asked the teacher to give him more work...keep him busy.  He is extremely social, extremely competitve...to a fault.  So he gets done, talks, and wants to know why he was wrong when he is wrong.  The teacher has told us that if she gives him something different that other kids want to do what he is doing and not their work.  So she expects him to sit there for 10-20 minutes and be still and quiet.

We are at our wits end.  We have tried everything to back her up.  We have lectured him, spanked him, grounded him, made him do extra work at home and nothing works.  We don't want to be that parent thinking our child is special and it's the teachers fault.  At the same time, we can't do anything else and the teacher doesn't seem to be wanting to anything not in her plan to better the situation.

The Principal said he would approve him to move up 2nd semester to 2nd grade and a 2nd grade teacher is eager to take him.  Only thing is he was born in April and is a young 1st grader, we don't feel he is ready for that.

Any suggestions.



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gail Hanson

It's a challenge when emotional maturity and intellectual ability are really different.  It doesn't matter much which one is advanced, it just matters that your kid doesn't fit the school's parameters of what is normal.  Schools are a lot better funded/experienced in dealing with academic delay or emotional delay than they are with academic precociousness, and emotionally precocious  kids manage themselves. 

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gail Hanson

You asked for suggestions.   I bet you are going to groan, but this situation is one where I would home-school.  Just for this year.  Give him a chance to enjoy the academics without the pressure to accomodate the logistical structure of a classroom.  He should have structure, set a daily agenda, but he wouldn't have to do what everybody else is doing, at the speed and level that they are doing it.

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benbuck6

we have often thought about home-schooling, just haven't sat down and figured out the logistics.  After reading the boards i had a conference with our headmaster and his teacher.  We have tripled his Accelerated Reading Goals for the next nine weeks.  He will also have a folder of worksheets to be checked by me for rewards at home ($.25 per sheet).  So he can earn A's for doing his school work and earn quarters for performing extra work his mother and I give hime.  The teacher was concerned that other kids would want to do the stuff he was doing...I showed her some sample worksheets I pulled off the internet and she laughed and commented that the rest of the kids would HATE doing that work, if they could even do it.  We also sat at her desk/computer and pulled up this website and I had her answer all the questions in the gifted student quiz...about my son.  I didn't say a word-I talked with the Headmaster while she was doing that.  He scored 100% in having characteristics of gifted children.

The meeting was very positive.  I went home and explained to my child the work ahead of him next 9 weeks and he wasn't too enthuised until I made the A/R goal a challenge and told him about the quarter per worksheet reward.  Then he began the math..."if I do 2 worksheets a day for you...there are 5 days a week in school....2-4-6-8-10.  That's 10 quarters which is $2.50.  I can do that. Lets do it"

So we are trying that.  Also, I found out that he had no more books in the class room he could read.  He had read all of the books she had at his level.  So, I agreed to buy 25 books plus the A/R test to go along with them and we would donate the books to the class after he had read them.  So the next kid that comes throught there will have some work at that level.

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gail Hanson

It was good that you kept the communication going until you found a good solution, and it is great that you are leaving a legacy for the next child that doesn't fit "normal."

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greenwave

that is ok just help her out on her stuff and try to see if you can give her the easest way to show her

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joyce stone

well, life is hard but you got to let your self know that it is okay and that you can be there for them and that your there to lience to them

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Znick

This is a good idea. Even if he is younger, he will be doing work on his level. Until he goes to the next level if he does, he needs to learn to control himself, so I think the spankings should continue. I had a similar problem with my son, but it wasn't because he was finishing his work early. He was just not wanting to do it. A good spanking got that in order.